This has been the experience of two of my friends who passed away: One recently in Russia due to a massive brain hemorrhage, and the other in Ukraine in a car accident in the war-stricken country a year ago. Both played a vital role in my Jesuit life. Both were family people. They had great compassion and love towards me, and they showed it in various ways.
Death is a cruel nail in our lives. Death puts an end to our precious lives. However, death does not win. The life of the person wins as it continues to live by the acts and the intentions the person has lived by. When death comes into life so suddenly, there is not even much time to say goodbye to the person or at least to have some conversations before the person moves into the other world. This gives sadness and remorse. Sadness because the death came in so early in one’s life, whereas remorse because a feeling of emptiness continues to haunt, “wish if I knew I would have talked to the person, had responded to the person,” etc. The list goes on.
What is eternal is the friendship that we experience and cherish, either in person, living in close proximity or far away through communication channels. Both of my friends who are no more have been very special to me. We came from different countries, languages and cultures, but our bond as Christians brought us all the more closer. We have shared our joys and sorrows, our agony and beautiful moments of peace together. Listened to the painful episodes of life, but also laughed at the lighter moments and shared the meals, walks and eucharist together. All has its purpose.
May they rest in peace!
Olvin Veigas, SJ
July 01, 2025
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